The perpetrators of sexual abuse and harassment have now devised new ways of carrying out their dastardly acts. We have to be sincere with ourselves, gone are those days when these people can be recognized or discerned from afar but this days, they are just like every gentlemen and ladies out there. That is why LEA is preaching the gospel of Security, Consciousness and Alertness to every parents and guardians out there.

Let’s imagine a situation where a mother took her young child to the Crèche, Kindergarten or School without any premonition that the Teacher, Caretaker, Nanny, or Instructor is a child molester. What will happen? The young child will become an object of sexual abuse in the hand of the trusted teacher. Cases like this have come and gone without even the parents or guardian suspecting any foul play. Especially when the parents are career minded people.

Okay, let me give you one funny story I read in one of the national dailies in my country but, I cannot vouch for the truthfulness. There is a man who specializes in abusing young girls by deceiving them into the act. He went ahead to cut one of his trouser pocket and the other pocket is always stocked with sweet of different kinds. Each time he returned from work, these young girls will rush out of their homes to greet him and he will tell them to touch his monkey.

You know what he did? He will put his penis into the (cut pocket) and tell these small girls to touch it. He tells them and I quote him “I have a small monkey in my pocket and he needs to be touched. If you touch my monkey better I will give you large percentage of my sweet.” This act went on for along time without these girls parent suspecting any foul play. They thought the man was just being nice until a little family packed into the area with their only daughter. She was just five but she knew every parts of the body by their real names. He touched the monkey as other did and told the man that it was not a monkey but a penis. The man jacked her off, called her naughty and gave her no sweet. Then she told her mum everything that happened. That was how the bubble bursted.

There are lessons to be learnt from this short story and I will highlight them for us all.

 Watch that nice man or woman. He/She might be robbing your child(ren) of their innocence
 Don’t act too spiritual or holy by calling the sensitive parts of the body by fake names. Let your child(ren) know every part of their body by the real name
 Tell your child(ren) the functions of this parts of the body
 Don’t be too carefree or career minded and neglect your child(ren)
 Watch your child (ren) move.
 Be free with your child (ren) so that they can tell you everything hurting them

I know you too can still get some other points from the story to help keep your home intact.

Have a lovely day.

What is Sexual Abuse?

It is very difficult for most people to talk about sexual abuse and even more difficult for society as a whole to acknowledge that the sexual abuse of children of all ages -- including infants -- happens everyday in the United States. It is no an easy phenomenon to define, primarily because permissible childhood behavior varies in accordance with cultural, family and social tolerances. Sexual abuse, which is 10% of all substantiated cases of child abuse, is defined as the involvement of dependent, developmentally immature children in sexual activities that they do not fully comprehend and therefore to which they are unable to give informed consent and/or which violates the taboos of society.

Sexual Abuse is any misuse of a child for sexual pleasure or gratification. It has the potential to interfere with a child's normal, healthy development, both emotionally and physically. Often, sexually victimized children experience severe emotional disturbances from their own feelings of guilt and shame, as well as the feelings which society imposes on them.

At the extreme end of the spectrum, sexual abuse includes sexual intercourse and/or its deviations. These behaviors may be the final acts in a worsening pattern of sexual abuse. For this reason and because of their devastating effects, exhibitionism, fondling and any other sexual contact with children are also considered sexually abusive.

Nontouching sexual abuse offenses include:
» Indecent exposure/exhibitionism
» Exposing children to pornographic material
» Deliberately exposing a child to the act of sexual intercourse
» Masterbation in front of a child
Touching sexual offenses include:
» Fondling
» Making a child touch an adult's sexual organs
» Any penetration of a child's vagina or anus by an object that doesn't have a medical purpose
Sexual exploitation offenses include:
» Engaging a child for the purposes of prostitution
» Using a child to film, photograph or model pornography

Courtesy: National Exchange Club Foundation.